KatyRose from Modly Chic shook up the Fashion Beauty Friend Friday questions today. She wants to know: What words of wisdom imparted to you have made a difference in your life? I admire her and her warm curiosity about other people.
It’s such a simple and profound question. In my mid-50’s now, I’ve been given thousands (millions?) of helpful words that helped shape my life. I hope that I am returning the favor to younger people, both in my professional and personal lives. (I still need and welcome advice too!)
It wasn’t difficult to recall some memorable advice:
- From my beloved father: “Do it! What’s the worst that could happen?” Then dad would patiently walk me through whatever the “worst” was, illustrate how unlikely it was, and promise to be there for me if it did happen. I miss him so much. I try to use his advice every day, from the most ridiculous decisions (A new wine to try? Why not?) to the most profound (move to NewYork? What’s the worst that could happen?) Other versions of dad’s advice over the years include “If not now, when?” and George Carlin’s more profane and hilarious “Take a *#*#in’ chance!” (Note: This advice wouldn’t be helpful if I’d been the crazy impulsive type. I was quite the opposite.)
- More wisdom came from my therapist Anne, when I was in my early thirties. She was guiding me through a very difficult time. I was always trying to find “le bon mot”, the perfect thing to say to make everything alright. She told me, “Speak from your heart and you won’t be wrong.” Lovely, simple, and yes, I have used it many times.
- And random, wonderful advice that no woman should ever be without: Put your shoulders back, be very proud of yourself, chin high, you are beautiful, you are enough!
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