Being good to oneself, style-wise, has a lot of layers (no pun intended!). Somehow, there’s guilt associated with it. I think it has to do with the underlying fear of being (or being perceived as) selfish.
For many of us women born in the 50’s and early 60’s, our programming included messages like:
Don’t be too flashy, noticeable, vain. Don’t call attention to yourself. What will other people say? Remember your place, and blah blah, blah.
So when it comes to our middle years, and dressing ourselves nicely, we sometimes hit a barrier about “deserving”. We’re not sure it’s OK to spend time, effort and money on looking good.
Oh yes, some of my generation have processed this issue differently and fallen into shopping addictions and plastic surgery over-load. I struggle more with, “May I have this, is this alright?”
I’m putting out a call to abandon our fashion fears and liberate our desires, to allow ourselves to break free of self-imposed rules. If not now, when? Being good to oneself in the realm of style is very personal. It could mean, for example:
- Acknowledging our body size and shape, and dressing to accentuate it, if we so choose. It’s not the law that hourglass shapes are the only good ones. Pears, apples and bananas are lovely too.
- Wearing the same beloved necklace, bracelet or ring every day, because it feels good.
- Red lipstick, even if those little lines around our lips are not so little any more.
- Getting a haircut and style at a very expensive salon, by a top-notch stylist.
- Wearing lovely flats everywhere because high heels hurt. Owning ten pair, if the budget permits.
- Enjoying navy blue nail polish on fingers and toes.
These don’t constitute style advice! Just some ways we can be good to ourselves and bask in the individual beauty we own.
Over to you: is this an issue you’ve pondered, the “deserving” of good things in your style-life? Are you comfortable treating yourself well? (I hope so). Anything you’d like to add to the list of How You’re Good To Yourself? I love to hear from you.