What would you do if you weren’t afraid? Writing the scary things down is a wonderful exercise in facing and moving past our fears. Most of us fear: being ridiculed, disappointing ourselves or loved ones, or failing. Failure is rarely fatal, although I appreciate these book-ended quotes:
— Mike Ditka, former football coach
— Susie Mauzy, former NASA employee
If you weren’t afraid, would you try singing in public, or exhibiting your art, or submitting a story to be published, or calling up an old friend you’d had a falling out with? If I weren’t afraid of ridicule/rejections, would I offer to sing at someone’s wedding, or knock on doors to promote a cause I care about, or (when I was single!), invite a man out for a coffee?
We can practice not being afraid by talking to ourselves in a calm, realistic way. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen, and how bad it that?” It’s usually a few moments of mild embarrassment, even if everything goes sideways. We can survive embarrassment by relying on an underpinning of courage and humor. And don’t forget to ask, “What if it goes really well, and I accomplish something amazing?” (My secret weapon question is: “How would Oprah approach this?”)
Getting dressed can be an adventure in overcoming anxiety, too. If you weren’t afraid of anything style-wise, what might you try?
Wearing your colorful maxi dress to the supermarket and feeling beautiful.
Getting rid of some pieces that you’ve just never loved. They’re blocking the space in your closet for something you do love. You won’t miss them, promise.
Mixing two off-beat prints and walking around like you own the place.
Adding funky floral boots to a feminine outfit.
Wearing mismatched earrings. I love this look. My pierced earring holes have closed up, but I plan to have them re-done this year.
Letting a friend pick your outfit for the day. It helps us step outside our comfort zone, and see what others might appreciate about us.
Have no fear, stay fabulous, and have fun with your closet, xo,
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