I’m just home from a short visit to Toronto, where I had the privilege to hang out with Suzanne (Suzanne Carillo) and Ally (Shybiker). Toronto is beautiful, a mix of old and modern – and clean, safe, and friendly, eh? We did a lot of shopping and delicious eating (Suzanne and Ally are “foodies” and I am so not, so I learned a bucketload about ingredients!)
The best times are, of course, getting to know other better, and deeper. The two hour coffees and long talks over vegetarian feasts. It’s an opportunity to drop external labels, and talk about life, love, politics, aging and dreams. Here are some of the best life lessons I came home with, along with a couple of fab thrift scores (to be seen soon):
- As always, people > fashion, every time. Clothing is fun and expressive and creative, but hearts and minds always win. We all three subscribe to the “no dictating others’ styles” philosophy. We’re keen observers, for sure, but hardly arbiters of style. We would have had equal fun sitting around a table in jeans and tees as in vintage frocks,although the latter look fantastic. I learned to move still farther away from prescribing how others should dress, or describing them in disparaging terms.
- We’re all the same, we’re all different. I learned this in grad school, day one of therapy training. We all want to be accepted, understood, safe. And we all come at it with wonderfully different directions. If we recognize our similarities, and stay nonjudgmental about our differences, life is good.
- Age matters, to a certain point. Ally said she was more sore and tired after a long motorcycle trip than she used to be at 40. My feet hurt more, and I was in bed by midnight every night, even though the city was still vibrant. So we’re all working on accepting our physical changes and still feeling juicy, adventurous and full of love.
- And on the lighter side: Suzanne taught me about lash extensions. Must try! And Ally introduced me to the healthy “Killer Shot”- made mainly with orange juice, cayenne pepper sauce and super-foods. I need more of that stuff.
Stay friends and stay fabulous,
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