Our social norms and assumptions can make us uptight, yes? Deadlines, multi-media exposures, high expectations, competition, and the demand to be eternally young and beautiful – these tighten our brains and make us feel anxious. We could all use a generous dose of loosen up medicine. In our thinking and behavior, and our style too.
One technique to loosen up is to better understand the line between “important” and “urgent.” We sometimes let others tell us what’s important, rather than listening to ourselves. We allow what’s right in front of us to become urgent, and forget that very few things in life are truly urgent. Bleeding from the head = urgent. Going to your cousin’s kid’s dance recital = not urgent.
A few tips on how to loosen up, that I’ve had to learn the hard way (the only way?) – by living them:
Don’t micro plan. Leave some room (time, energy, cash) for the unexpected, and then expect the unexpected. Sh!t always happens, so don’t try to plan your day to the last minute. Breathe, and leave some space for the surprises.
Don’t be so freaking sensitive, woman! I’m talking to myself here, but maybe you’ve experienced this too. People will say and do things that may offend us, but it’s not ABOUT us. If someone you care deeply about hurts your feelings, of course you’ll want to talk it over with them. But the opinions of strangers/barely acquaintances have no bearing on our lives. I love the Alcoholics Anonymous maxim, “Your opinion of me is none of my business.”
Perspective! Will it be important a few days (never mind a few years) from now if I missed a blog post or Instagram share? Hell no, it’s not even terribly important right this minute, as we endeavor to keep social media in its place. Enjoy that second coffee, read the funnies, call a friend.
Loosen up fashion-wise – break a style rule, experiment, have an “opposite day” when you wear a cocktail dress to the coffee shop, and expect mistakes. I thought I “couldn’t” wear warm colors, then I found this amazing dress at Suzanne’s Etsy shop. All I did was pop on a warm-toned wig and the dress is my best friend.
Loosen up the reins, breathe in and out, and stay fabulous, xo,
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