Am I too [blank] to wear this? Most of us have had that moment in front of the mirror: Am I too (in my case) old for this look? Most recently it was a very pretty tiered skirt, with ruffles and a slightly gathered waist. I eventually decided against it, and went for a satin midi skirt with a drawstring waist. My choice was still flattering and modern, and I felt more comfortable in it. Something about the tiers and ruffles felt like I was trying too hard to rewind the clock.
Not this exact skirt, but similar. I told it “not quite.” 😊
Something like this feels just fine. Let the clothes do the hard work.
Skirt from Nordies.
A few months ago my beloved “baby” sister (age 50) sent me an email of a tote with celebrity’s picture on it. Sister is getting it free with purchase at Dillard’s. She asked “Am I too old for this purse? Tell me the truth, Pat!” So I told her my opinion: it was a tote for a very young woman, but she should get it if she loves it. And that she is not too old, it’s the purse that skews young.
“For age is opportunity no less, than youth itself, though in another dress.”-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
I am thin now so I don’t currently suffer from “Am I too fat for this skirt, these jeans, etc”. I was a plump child though and heard plenty of it in my head through my younger years. When hip-hugger jeans first came in style, I “knew” I was “too fat” for those. Ditto two-piece bathing suits and short-shorts. It still hurts to recall those moments of body-hate.
I’d like to turn the title question around and rephrase it: does this (garment) make me feel special, beautiful, feminine, proud? It is now the job of the clothing to do the hard work, because I am not too (blank). If that tiered skirt doesn’t make me feel confident, sorry skirt, you are on your way to live at baby sister’s house!
It’s still a struggle to not fault myself for failing to look good in every outfit. I must remind myself that I have my own face, shape and age. What looks stunning on Gisele Bündchen is, well, stunning on Gisele Bündchen. Somebody’s gotta be me, and it looks like it’s going to be me.
Have you ever asked yourself if you’re too “whatever” to wear “whatever”? Please share your stories, and thanks as always for reading.
“It’s true, I’ve become one of those grumpy older women.”-Penelope Wilton
Stay fabulous, xo
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