Conformity has value, for sure. We want and need to fit in with our fellow humans. It’s coded in our DNA. The worst punishment in some cultures was and still is banishment from the community. Not belonging feels bad.
The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you—except yourself. — contemporary author Rita Mae Brown
But if you’re in the mood for self-examination (I always am, it’s the curse of the trade), ask yourself why in any given instance, you have the urge to conform. There are valid reasons, naturally, like in the Army you have to wear the uniform! But investigate your perceived need to conform blindly, versus making a different, more personal choice. Here’s where fashion and style come in. It seems we now have more fashion choices than ever, and yet it’s still seductive to follow the crowd.
A man [or woman] must consider what a rich realm he abdicates when he becomes a conformist. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (addition is mine)
My own style guideline is to conform when it makes good sense (dressing conservatively at a funeral, wearing enough clothing to be warm). And I can choose not to conform because I love a different look, and I don’t mind if other people don’t. That last part is the key, to have faith that you’re dressing yourself the way you want to, and not the way the trends/blogs/magazines try to drive you.
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. — Mark Twain
Here are a couple of examples of beautiful individuality, culled from the women of Visible Monday:
Gorgeous Elle of The Elle Diaries chose to wear her sparkle dress on a “normal” day. She says, “I found this perfect, short sleeve dress that fits better than any dress I have ever worn, and I love the shimmer. I could not wait to share it. Lets add some sparkle to this new week!”
Question authority, fly your flag, and stay fabulous, xo,
Here’s some cool non-traditional pieces to play with:
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