Visible Monday #19: Being Seen In The City

Welcome to Visible Monday #19! If you want to participate, it’s so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the simple how-to.

Broadcasting from the heart of the West Village for this Visible Monday (I am such a place-name-dropper, I can’t abide myself).

I really do feel more visible on this trip than I did on our last, in June, when I first wrote about the Invisible Woman. Writing these Monday posts, and reading those of my blogger friends has increased my confidence about being a Woman of a Certain Age. Thank you!

Proof: Yesterday I was walking around the East Village near NYU, and a whole cloud of students was filling the sidewalk. I overheard snatches of delightful student-ish conversations: “I think it’s going to be multiple choice.”; “I haven’t even started yet!”; et al.

Right behind me were a young woman and man, play-arguing about an upcoming competition of some sort — academic, athletic, artistic, I couldn’t tell. They each were saying, “I am going to do so much better than you!” and laughing. As they passed, I looked at the girl and smiled and said, “You’re going to do so much better.” She squealed, and he laughed, and just for that moment, being an Older Woman was so sweet. And Visible.

Here’s a look for today: nothing very dramatic, just some comfortable city garb for going out to brunch, then the Chelsea Flea Market, then a walk through Central Park (if I am not frozen by then — high of 44 today). The sweater is from GAP. The skirt was thrifted here this week, a vintage 80’s midi. The Limited belt also thrifted here, and good old Aldo boots I bought last winter. I had to give up my curls for today, because of hat-hair and cold, dry air!

That’s my faux-fur scarf I bought in the East Village vintage store this week. Very cozy.
Here we enjoyed apple cinnamon pecan pancakes, and scrambled eggs with ricotta cheese.

Now, please show us what you’re wearing today!

The guidelines to participate in the Visible Monday Link-Up are so simple!

  1. Any Monday, whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
  2. Include a link to Not Dead Yet Style somewhere in your post.
  3. Go to the bottom of this post and click on this cute little link:

In the “Next Step”, you crop the pic (easy tool) you want to display, and you’re done!


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  1. I love your full grey skirt and plush fur scarf! That jacket looks exactly like a jacket I came across thrifting a week ago. I put it back since it was a little big, and I'm kicking myself!

  2. Oh how I LOVE that thrifted midi and your scarf! I can just imagine the awesome thrift finds you must come across in that fabulous city of yours:-)
    Your breakfast sounds so yummy!
    Thanks so much for giving me the opportunity to participate in Visible Monday–great idea:-)

  3. Cindy, you are lovely and thanks so much for coming over! Pls. come back  : >

  4. Ha! My "landlord" did the decor — it's really a cute little place! Thanks for thinking of me — we did get about an inch of snow! Freaky for October, but fun for us visitors.

  5. I was thinking about you this weekend, wondering if you got the snow!  It must be fun for you to dress in warmer clothing–something you are not used to!  And how fun to get a fur scarf!  You look great–and love the outfit–did you pick the wallpaper to match? 

  6. Hi Paula – thanks for coming by! I will take your advice and do a shopping list for NYC, and I'll invite other readers to add to it — there is so much! Happy Halloween!

  7. Hi!  I am a 47 year-old-SAHM who is new to your blog and just loving it!  Thanks for the inspiration!  Also, love reading about your trip to NYC.  Perhaps you could do a blog entry one day of tips for visiting & shopping in NYC as a "Visible Woman"!  OK, I confess… hubby and I are planning on visiting there next year for our 25th wedding anniversary. 

    Seriously, I do love your blog!  Blessings, Paula

  8. I LOVE your brown jacket. The grey skirt is adorable too. I rarely feel 'invisible' (not since high school at least) but I'm also kind of a loud person. So I blame that.

  9. Love the jacket with the snappy green gloves.  You look like you are having a great time.

  10. very sweet outfit. I love the scarf, and boots. You're looking so chic and co-ordinated even on a holiday!


  11. You look great — I love that skirt! I'm probably not going to join the Visible Legions this week, but I'll have fun surveying everyone's posts. Enjoy the rest of your NY visit — you're making me very envious!

  12. I love reading about your NYC trip…seeing your NYC pictures…and loving that jacket!!  Very Visible!

  13. That's a great story! I like your visible monday posts. You look very elegant in black and I love your use of accessories here.

  14. Patti — love that second picture of you with the green gloves. I don't know what it is exactly, but you look so happy and so chic.

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