Comparison is the thief of joy. Do you agree? I am not without self-confidence. I can almost always speak up for myself and feel my voice. When you read dozens of blogs, though, and try to produce a decent one, it’s hard not to fall into the comparison trap. There are always other bloggers and writers who are more creative, talented, wealthy, young and beautiful than oneself. That’s true in every field of endeavor. As a wanna-be singer, I can attest that comparison is an obstacle to success.
Maybe you’ve experienced this comparison feeling when you enter a crowded room, or view others’ blogs, or watch the home decorating shows (I have never watched a cooking show, but I bet it can be a source of envy). I occasionally find myself feeling less-than other bloggers because a) at 61, I am among the eldest in the pool, b) I have a small wardrobe, and c) I am more of a logical/verbal than artistic person. Creating unforgettable individual looks is not my strength.
I do love to start with my simple pieces, mostly neutrals, and make them my own. I’ll never be a Melanie of Bag and Beret or Judith of Style Crone – both of whom I have met, and who are delightful and humble. They make clothing into art. I can add floral booties to my tan suede skirt, then look in the mirror for a moment and add a floral bracelet. In the end I feel good and authentic, and not like I am trying to be the next Melanie or Judith.
I encourage you, and me, to drop comparison (after all, you have all kinds of gifts that others may envy too) and cheer for other women, just as they are. They, like you and I, are making their own way through the maze of living and creating. Not dead yet!
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