My therapist used to advise me to distinguish between what I want and what I need. She said we often try to turn our wants into “needs” so we feel justified wanting them. So I am woke now about the difference, and it’s OK to say “want”. This post is about those needs, though, the stuff we can’t dress well without.
You may have a huge wardrobe or a tiny one, but there are a few things we all need, to look and feel good. Things you do need, style edition:
Cool shoes. They just have to be cool to you – and comfortable of course – so you feel great wearing them. They add personality and a signature touch to your outfits. And we need to wear shoes anyway, so why not make them fierce or funky or whatever your style choice is. I favor oxfords and booties – they go with everything in my closet.
Good underthings. I don’t need to wear a supportive bra, as I’m small on top. But I do need a little uplift and comfort, so I wear camisoles with built-in shelf bras. I refresh them frequently, often from GAP or similar. I buy my bikini briefs online from Amazon, after a lot of hits and misses. Some of you like lacier pieces, that’s all good too. And I just found out from a friend that a “good (supportive) bra” can be $80! It’s cheaper to be small busted. : >
Basic skin care and sunscreen. No matter our age or skin type, we need to take care of it starting asap. You’ve no doubt got a routine; please make sure it contains a sunscreen (says the woman who had a melanoma removed six months ago). My daily routine is: gentle cleansers, moisturizers and Vitamin C serum in the morning, and Retin-A at night. And a bucket of SPF 30. Use it on your neck and hands too.
And here are three things you don’t need in your happy life. These are time suckers or time wasters, and keep us from enjoying life as it rolls by.
Obsession with social media. This is a huge issue for me. I recognize that, versus five years ago, I am typing/scanning more, and living less. I read this somewhere: don’t lose a memory for a text.
Approval from the masses. Of course we all like to be approved of. But we don’t need pats on the head from everyone in our real and online lives. Some people even dislike how we dress, or talk, or vote. We don’t need their approval to be happy.
Faux drama. Oy, this is something I avoid at all costs at my advanced age. Most everything will work itself out. If it doesn’t we can choose to keep trying, or step away gracefully. Roll with it, we don’t need added drama in our already full lives. xox
Tell us what you need/don’t need below, and stay fabulous, xo,
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