Most people are honest, and kind. That’s one of the founding philosophies of eBay, and it has worked out to be mostly true. The same cannot always be said for social media. Brace yourselves, there are some mighty cranky people who own computers. If we choose to put ourselves out there to the public, we can expect our share of comments from those whose cereal has been peed on.
I do try to learn something from even the crabbiest commenter. Listening to our critics can be tedious, but truly helpful in improving our work. I am not counting in this group those whose only comment is, e.g., “your pants are stupid.”
I most often get Facebook complaints about featuring only young or “skinny” women when showing items for sale. I do try to seek out more mature models, and non-skinny body types. The vast majority of clothing advertised is shown on young, skinny women, however. So we have some work to do there.
I do understand the desire to see clothing modeled by women who look more like “us.” Message received, and appreciated.
The latest crabby comment I got was on an article I published about all the ways to wear crop trousers. There’s a lot of variety in the looks I featured. The Facebook commenter said “Oh, so I guess anything goes, then?”
It’s snarky, but has a seed of usefulness. I think I didn’t fully explain that yes, of course, “anything goes” when dressing one’s own body, but there are still social and religious norms that many choose to follow. Including me: I didn’t wear cropped culottes and an off the shoulder top to my father-in-law’s memorial service (miss you Butch). I wore a simple black sheath, to show respect and to not draw attention to myself. I wouldn’t wear a frothy white gown to a wedding.
Dress conservatively for a somber occasion:
I do fully believe in expressive dressing and breaking fashion “rules”. I wear my whites long after Labor Day, mix prints and jewelry, skip pantyhose, wear black with brown or navy, and show off my 61-year-old arms with pride. I wear stripes and double-denim all the time. I don’t wear leggings as pants, but applaud those who do. My hair is long and fuzzy and I love red lipstick, even though paler shades do make me look “younger.”
So please, do feel free to delete any comments that make you feel bad, or are just plain rude. Look, also, for a tiny scrap of helpfulness.
And stay fabulous as always,
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