The confidence of age. Growing older is a trade-off, as are most things in life. In youth, we have socially-defined beauty and high energy. It’s part of the evolutionary plan, and it works to help us attract mates and reproduce ourselves.
In mid-life and later we look different from our young selves, not as stereotypically beautiful. We’re no longer the target for the newest fashion or makeup. The markets are slowly expanding, though, as advertisers understand the consumer power of the mid-life woman. We’re now seeing ad campaigns with spokespeople like Charlotte Rampling and Marc Jacobs – check out this photo, and swoon.
And this wonderful Pinterest page devoted to older women still representing: we’re not dead yet.
All for the good. We can’t deny we’re changing physically; it’s part of life. Even the priciest plastic surgery won’t take away the morning stiffness, or need for reading glasses, or sore feet. We’re also changing in positive ways, ways that are becoming more real to me now that age 65 has swiftly come and gone.
“My face carries all my memories. Why would I erase them?”
-Diane Von Furstenberg
Here are some of the trade-offs for me and my 50+ year-old friends:
- We are much more relaxed. “What’s the worst that could happen?” has probably already been lived through, or won’t be repeated. Heinous hurricane season of 2004 – I’m talking about you.
- We’ve given away some of our perfectionism. I really truly cannot leave the house without making the bed, still, but I can make it loosely ☺. I can skip eye make-up and feel fine with lipgloss and blush. I don’t balance my checkbook to the penny; I round up.
- We know stuff. My teenage nieces are discovering the mystery of boys. Boys, I know all about them. Men too.
- We major in the majors. For the minors – broken dishes, leaky faucets, the rogue pimple, a bad meal at a restaurant — we use our humor to cope and keep on going.
- We know our limits (I won’t be a ballerina or surgeon) but keep pushing for more too (I’m taking singing lessons and improving!).
- We aren’t easily intimidated, by bankers, doctors, bosses, decorators, or boyfriends. Even a letter from the IRS doesn’t scare me anymore; I’ve gotten those before and lived through.
Cheers to us, a confident, street-smart, style savvy, and unruffled group. Cheers to you! xxxx
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