Terminally vain. That’s inspired by a phrase from the classic Eagles song Life in The Fast Lane: “He was brutally handsome, and she was terminally pretty.” I wrote a post years ago about my concerns surrounding blogging and vanity. And I’m still wondering, is being vain part of the essence of blogging? How self-absorbed do I have to be posting pictures of myself all over the internets?
I think the niggling am-I-vain question with regard to style blogging is about the posing, and the hair/makeup prep, and the wondering “how I’ll look” in the photos. I make internal jokes about it, and pretend I’m Maye Musk. Is she vain or leading the charge against ageism in advertising?
If I don’t like how I look in a picture, of course I don’t post it. I’m not that artistically committed as to expose my quirky physical attributes. But what are my standards, and are they reasonable or terminally vain? After all, quoting my old post:
I’m a middle aged woman, not a Harper’s Bazaar model. I am mostly happy with the way I look. Blogging has caused me to pay a lot of attention to my aging appearance, and I’m not sure how I feel about that.
To deal with the doubts, I remind myself that there is more to style blogging than pretty pictures, at least in my world view. And recently I’ve been shifting my writing topics to the ways style interacts with aging and life philosophy. I still love sharing outfits, styling ideas, wardrobe, and shopping strategies. And I am still concerned about that extra bit of stress I give myself (do you feel it too?) at photo-shoot time.
I tell myself I am not so much vain as aware that appearance does matter, at some level, to all of us. In the perfect world it would not be so, but it is and we deal with it as we see fit. Humor, acceptance, a dash of courage is what we need as we show our faces to the world.
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