This is an encore post I wrote about five years ago. It still rings true for me, and now I have even more experience to rely on. Edited to make it more current.
I’ve been contemplating how aging or experience translates to beauty. That’s what aging is, after all – experience at living. And experience helps us in every area of our lives: at parenting, at our jobs, at managing money and homes and hobbies.
So can it help us be more beautiful and stylish? I think yes. Here are some of the ways experience can make us more fabulous:
- We don’t doubt ourselves as we select our wardrobes, so we are more sure of our choices.
- Our style reflects who we are more closely — because we know who we are, more confidently each year.
- We take the time and make the effort to take good care of ourselves. If budgets allow, we get massages and pedicures. If not, at least we know how to turn down the noise and take a long, fragrant bath.
- We’ve learned how to accept, style and work with our hair, to its best advantage. No more straightenings for me, or setting my hair on juice cans.
- We are not so self-conscious in our clothes as we once were. We get dressed, have a good look in the mirror, add or subtract a piece and go about our day. Because . . .
- We know what works!
For example, I did a mini closet clean-out recently. I just focused on my skirts and blouses/tops. I tried most of them on to see if I still said “Oh, yeah!” when I looked in the mirror. “Do I still love this?” and “Do I want to wear this right away?” The Yes pieces got put back in the closet.
There were a few easy No’s – that just don’t fit right anymore, or are too scratchy/pilly. Then there are the very nice pieces that I haven’t worn in a long time. The fine black wool Banana Republic blazer. It’s in perfect condition, and it’s my size. But it’s double-breasted and has shoulder pads, and it’s just too masculine for me. That’s why I haven’t worn it, duh! So to consignment it has gone.
|Beautiful, but it didn’t fit my style (this one’s a Donna Karan).|
I have learned my own style so that it’s easier to say No, whether at the store or in my closet, to pieces that are not Truly Me. That’s the beauty of experience.
What do you think? Has aging helped make you more beautiful, by giving you that extra boost of wardrobe confidence? Or are you thinking: shut up, Patti, I’ll take 29 and inexperienced any day? : >
Some things are always welcome in my closet:
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