I am a lifelong, born worrier from a long line of worriers, on both sides of the family. I think I worried excessively about when my next diaper change would be. “What if something bad happens?” could have been our family crest. Subtitled: “What will people think?” Now my own crest says, “Don’t worry so much.”
I was taught (like many of us Boomers) to be fearful of others’ judgements. Fitting in, being accepted, was paramount, and to be fair, that’s a normal characteristic of youth. Standing out from your crowd was not a safe position. It doesn’t have to stay that way though. Fashion is fun, self-expression is freeing and joyful. Perhaps we’ll address the more serious worries in another post, but style should be fun.
It wasn’t until my 50’s that I became more fearless in fashion. I missed a couple of great decades when I could have been experimenting like crazy, but it’s not too late! I could’ve been wearing this (not to the office), but I was too timid to express myself:
I do admire the Iris Apfels of the world, who dress in riotous color and patterns. That’s not me, but I love to see it. I’m not comfortable in a costume-y outfit, like head-to-toe vintage for example. It draws more attention than I feel happy with. But a vintage maxi skirt with modern top (like here) is right up my style alley.
If worry starts to creep in, here are some of the reminders I give myself:
1. People mostly don’t notice. My own husband couldn’t tell you what I’m wearing right now if he closed his eyes. We are much more concerned about our own appearance than others are.
2. Don’t give much thought to what they are thinking anyway. Approval seeking (you’re OK, I’m not OK) is at the heart of much worry.
3. Be yourself, and one of the advantages of being over 50 is we know what that means. It means, for one, don’t worry so much.
Pieces like these do express who I am now, and I wear them happily:
Be as bold as you like, and stay fabulous,
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