Tender And Tough: My Refined Style

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You like to mix it up, don’t you? Wear a dressy top with jeans, or a tee with a full swooshy skirt. Rugged boots with a midi dress and red lipstick with your pajamas (uh, I may be alone with that one). This month for My Refined Style I am blending tender and tough.

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A new to me thrifted silk tank (similar) looks more grown up, less girly, with a modern zippered skirt.


Love the haphazard ruffles on this top. . .


. . . and the funky zippers on the skirt (sim). Cork wedge sandals are so comfortable (sim).



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  1. I don’t have too many “tender” pieces in my wardrobe – there’s more of what I would call “tough”. The top is so pretty, and is a lovely contrast to the awesome edgey skirt (which I would wear in a minute).

  2. I love this tender/tough thing!!
    I read an article probably a year ago about dichotomy in our outfits and it’s stuck ever since. My mom still gets appalled when I style her blog looks this way—but I think it’s more than fun!!
    Great skirt BTW!!

  3. A feminine top with an edgy skirt is one of my favorite looks, especially on you Patti! An Asymmetrical hemmakes me so happy! You look gorgeous!

  4. If I could, I would wear a suit every day. I’d want to be like Alicia Florrick or Claire Underwood, all dressed up all the time. That worked in the office; it felt good even just going out for lunch and looking sharp. Now I work from home and sometimes get dressed at 3 p.m. Plus I’m in a vacation destination (yeah, I live on vacation) and people are very, very casually dressed, even for things you’d think they’d dress up for. So I have to mix it up or I look inappropriately overdressed.

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