Shopping (And Living) In The Here And Now

Shopping (and living) in the here and now. Do you ever shop for the “near future?” You know, for when I “lose a little”, or “firm up”? I prefer not to buy clothing this way; I am impatient.

Some fashion experts advise keeping a coveted item in a different size, hanging in a prominent place in your closet. This is a motivator, they say, to meet your body-change goals. Perhaps this does work, as a real-life visualization of where you’d like to be. Or maybe it makes you feel sad.

I don’t like to buy or own clothing that might fit some future me. I like to do my shopping in the here and now, and take home something I can’t wait to put on! In fact, that’s one of my favorite guidelines for buying an item: “Do I want to wear it right way?” If yes, it’s probably going in my basket. If it’s too tight, I don’t really want it in my closet.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow, so today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly live.”

-Dalai Lama

But I am always curious about other women’s motivators: do you shop for now, or for a little bit later?

And as promised, a few pics from our time in Manhattan, the Greatest City. We had a blast, frequenting our usual haunts with some new adventures thrown in.

The Oculus transport hub on the left is near One World Trade Center. This part of town is nothing like my funky NYC neighborhood, but it’s awe-inspiring. The poignant September 11th Memorial Plaza is just around the corner.

Always hold fast to the present. Every situation, indeed every moment, is of infinite value, for it is the representative of a whole eternity.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Still downtown in front of vibrant street art. The gold trench is from Vetta, and the sleeves zip off (not on this day : > )
One of my favorite photo spots, on Minetta Lane in Greenwich Village. The Blue Wall of Style, heh.

Live in the moment, enjoy every sandwich.

Stay fabulous, xo

Wear what you love, always. Here are some goodies to browse:


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  1. I haven’t shopped in forever, and my wardrobe has every size in it so I usually covered, literally. I believe in the here and now but I feel squished when the environment doesn’t let me easily play out the possibilities. I make do with my imagination and camera. Great shots of New York, Patti. I’m glad you made it!!

    • Good Morning, Mel! You’re right about the current environment and the limited possibilities for style break-out. But yes and also true – use your beautiful imagination and the magic will happen, even in a small space. Love to you, xx.

  2. Great pics from NYC! Like you, I enjoy shopping for the here and now and am always impatient to wear my something “new” whether it is thrifted or actually brand new. I do buy a few items in Fall that I can wear in the Spring/Summer but most of those items could be worn during warmer winter days if paired with the right jacket or sweater. Love your posts!

    • Hello Debbie and thanks for coming over. I love switching seasonal items around too, and layering a sweater over a tee. Have fun with your clothes and stay fab, xx.

  3. I miss New York so much! I buy clothing for the body I have now, but I still have a few things in the closet that fit me last year, and don’t now to act as motivators to get back into a regular fitness routine.

    • Hi Shelley! I think of you when I sit in Washington Square Park with a hot tea! Thanks for coming by and have a great week ahead, xx.

  4. I have many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe that I have had for at least 20 years. except for having my kids I have been the same size all my, very long, adult life. I seldom purchase anything now, except to replace, as in a recent pair of comfortable sneakers for walking, with and without dogs.

    • Hi Darby, you’re a wise woman. And lucky/smart to stay the same size over the years! Thanks for coming by and have a lovely weekend, xx.

  5. Thank you so much for your post I so enjoy reading you and browsing your fashion items choice section for new fashion fun.Your Goethe quote was so profound I have over the past few years got into the pleasure of living in the present and enjoying the beauty and positives of life .Going along with living in the present I buy clothes to wear and enjoy now. Thanks to the advice of one of the Advanced Style girls I have also stopped saving clothes for that unknown something special and now feel free to enjoy everything in my closet.

    • Hi Joan and I hope you’re having a great day. thanks for your comments, and cheers to you for wearing your “best” every day! Stay well, xx.

  6. I absolutely buy for the body I have at the moment, but I admit to being more interested in shopping (or, more accurately, happier with what I see in the mirror) when I am down a few pounds rather than up a few. I hate to get rid of things because I do hope to fit into them again and if I bought them once it was because they pleased me. That said, I just took a 25-year-old leather coat to a tailor today to get a new lining put in. So I don’t shop very often and wear things forever.
    My daughter is very into second hand, for environmental reasons, and scored an absolutely gorgeous, buttery-soft knee-length leather coat at a thrift shop in Amsterdam…for 69€. Such a bargain. It helps to shop in cities with great style, too. (Like where you are–NYC)

    • Hello TOF and thanks for coming by, always good to see you. Very heartening to hear about the 25 year old jacket you still love and wear! Sigh, I want to go thrifting in Amsterdam. Have a wonderful day, xx.

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