I have been taking singing lessons for a year. I have a wonderful teacher, Kyle Jones – he is super-talented, kind, patient, and funny. He sings like an angel, no kidding, and has two Masters Degrees in music. How lucky I was to find him. Seriously, if you’re in Central Florida and want the best music instruction, get in touch with Kyle (I link because I love).
I think we can extract life lessons from any experience, beyond the obvious (learning to sing from singing lessons). Here are some of the more-than-singing lessons I am trying to apply to my life-in-general:
1. Don’t give up just because you suck right now. Everything, everything worth doing takes commitment and practice and determination. Staying happily married: not a coincidence, and so worth it. Changing careers at 40 and going back to grad school: lots of effort, and so worth it. Very few of us have naturally-gifted vocal chords (lucky those who do!) so singing takes a lot of practice, and failure, and forgiveness, and optimism too.
2. You are your own worst critic (probably). I am harder on myself than my teacher is. Perfectionism, OCD, these are thieves of joy. I can relax once in awhile and say “well done.” The doubt comes about when I think I’ve nailed a song, but check my iPhone recording and I sound like Elmer Fudd. So be kind to yourself, and realistic as well.
3. Decide on occasion to listen to the expert, and not to your own will. This was hard for me as I have been called, ahem, “opinionated” and, gasp, “stubborn.” It’s actually quite freeing to hand control of my voice lessons over to Kyle. I hear lots of singing advice elsewhere, and take it all in, but I give Kyle the final word. This is relaxing and lets me focus all my efforts in one direction. If he’s wrong about something, I am willing to take that chance.
Have you extracted life lessons from learning to cook, write software, dance, draw, or other?
Stay fabulous, and don’t give up,
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