How to cure yourself of size phobia. We all know clothing size is just a number, not a marker of our beauty, smarts or self-worth. But we are a size-minded culture and many of us (me too, of course) sometimes get caught up in the size game. I’m sure that’s how “double zero” sizes came about, we wanted to be smaller-than-small. This is craziness.
“There are no rewards in Heaven for designer labels in size 8. There are rewards for appreciating the body you are currently in.” Thank you dear Brenda! (I recommend the book in its entirety; it’s only 80 pages but they’re full of useful tips.)
“This is it: This body is home. This is where I live and hang my hat. . . . . This body is durable, has lasted for years, hunkered down through fierce storms and allows for the peaceful erosions of age. It is like a cottage on the shore: weathered and well made, a place where a person could comfortably live. I like it here. It is my own.”–Marya Hornbacher
Thrifting, shopping vintage, and shopping second-hand in general have cured me of negative thoughts regarding labels and size. Here’s how:
- Sizes have changed dramatically over the past six decades. A skirt from the 1960’s marked size 12 often fits my modern size 4/6 body perfectly. So what size am I really? Who cares, as long as it fits and flatters? You probably know about Marilyn Monroe wearing a (1950’s) size 16.
- Pre-loved clothing has likely been washed, dry-cleaned, maybe even altered by its previous owner. So the item marked size 10 may be the equivalent of a 6 or 8 now, and again, do I care?? Jeans are notorious for this phenomenon; I think sometimes they were dried in a kiln so as to shrink them to their smallest possible size.
- The size label does not matter when you’re going for a new look via thrifting. I have a vintage floral blouse (similar), size Large, that looks great all poufed up and belted. My usual size Small or Medium would look silly this way. Second-hand shopping has allowed me to color outside the lines, size-wise.
Are you label-conscious when it comes to size? Please be kind to yourself and know that numbers — weight, age, dress size, or W-2’s — don’t determine how wonderful we are meant to be.
Stay fabulous, xo
Wear what you love, always. Here are some goodies to browse: