How not to have an ageless face. Not talking about my own face, it’s doing OK, while showing a bit of wear. I mean the (now-deceased, RIP) dermatologist featured in The New York Times in 2014. His name was Frederic Brandt, and he was an in-demand doc to the stars.
Dr. Brandt’s businesses were wildly successful and he practiced in both Manhattan and Miami Beach. In the Times article, he sounded like a pleasant, intelligent, and kind person. But his face looked odd to me: almost alien in its smoothness. Ageless, but in a discomfiting way.
I am all in favor of self improvements, and have had my share: caps on some of my teeth, and pre-pandemic: expensive hair color, pedicures, facial peels, and more. But I have a fear of changing my face too much, so that I become either unrecognizable or bizarre-looking, or both.
All told, my concerns about my aging appearance are luxurious first-world problems. Here are some of the reader comments that appeared with the article, and that match my feelings:
- “I do not see my wrinkles and sags as something cruelly inflicted on me. If we have had the good fortune to live on this earth long enough to have our skin wrinkle and our bodies give in to gravity, why refer to it as cruel and try to hide it? Why not celebrate it?”
- “Here’s some beautiful women who are great role models for aging gracefully – https://www.advanced.style/. As one of the women in Ari Seth Cohen’s documentary says, ‘Young women, you’re going to be an old woman some day. Don’t worry about it. Don’t sweat it.”
- “As a member of the baby boomer generation, I watch every morning as I sprout more gray hair and see my face fall. Some days I don’t know who’s looking back at me in the mirror…is it my mother? I consider my aging appearance a sign of my wisdom. My six+++ decades on Earth have given me a lot of knowledge and I’m not afraid to show it.”
- “I live in Spain now, and although youth is accepted and appreciated here also, so are all ages. Spokesmodels are often in their 50s, 60s and 70s. So, the youth worship/age terror is neither universal nor inevitable.”
So, my plan is to stay healthy/fit, use my usual quart of sunscreen, move to Spain 😊 and try to skid into the grave “sideways, chocolate in one hand, wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming “WOO HOO what a ride!”
What’s your idea of an ageless face?
Stay safe, wash and wash and wash (your hands), xo
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