Hold on To Your Favorites: Visible Monday

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The “rules” for cleaning out your closet often say: “If you haven’t worn it in a year, get rid of it.” I say nooooooo, what about my heavy puffer coat (for NYC), bright green rain boots, and velvet shrug? OK, it’s been a year but they’re still among my favorites, and they must stay. Some of our favorite pieces are only worn in a certain season, or for a special occasion, but they’re favorites for a reason – we love them.

Welcome to Visible Monday. If you want to participate, it’s so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the how-to. Link back to Not Dead Yet Style if you like – we’re on Easy Does It “rules” now!

And I do love my olive velvet shrug, thrifted in NYC many years ago. It’s so soft and drapey and the color is good for me, even though I am a “cool” skin tone. Today I wore it over a simple black cotton tee, and a checked, ruffled pencil skirt (inspired by Gail of Is This Mutton). Perfect for a late-season Florida chill. 


The black beaded necklace was designed by my friend Suzanne Carillo (check out her vintage treasures here). And the boots are old, by Doc Martens, who doesn’t seem to make this style anymore. Here is a similar pair.

Eyes down, checking on kitty.


Now, let’s see what’s in your closet, Visible Women.

The guidelines to participate in the Visible Monday Link-Up are so simple:

    1. Whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
    2. Go to the bottom of this post and click on the InLinkz button “Add Your Link”. It should open a new page.
    3. In the “Next Step”, you crop the pic (easy tool) you want to display, and you’re done!
    4. Visit a few other bloggers, to make new friends and increase your own following.


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Stay fabulous and wear what you love,


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  1. such an amazing skirt. I love it. Almost as much as the cat. I swear it’s one of the highlights every week seeing if he has moved LOL. Such a great accent on a porch or patio. Hop over and link up to A Labour of Fashion would love to have you

  2. Well, that rule would definitely clean out my closet, which is why I disregard it. Heh. So glad you do too, love that shrug!! Thanks for the linkup, Patti.

  3. So agree with you about the old ‘if you haven’t worn it in a year’ thang.
    I think to myself..why haven’t I worn it? Is the love affair over? Does it not fit anymore? Could it be altered? So many questions! But to purge for the sake of purging or because ‘Mother did this every Spring’ No reason to not keep certain clothing items that we have a history with. I have a few that I don’t think I’ll fit into again but I love them too much to let go. Last time I did that I lost 25 pounds and could have kicked myself for letting some items go. Purses for the most part, unless cared for, can look down at heel as can shoes. My favourites I polish and box up for next time! Yes curate as needed but forget the purge!

  4. I totally agree, why get rid of favorite item just because it isn’t worn often?

    That velvet shrug is beautiful. It looks so soft — I’m happy velvet has made a comeback.

  5. I couldn’t agree with you more Patti. There are so many items that I don’t wear that often that are fixtures in my closet. I see myself as a collector, so it gives me more wiggle room to have too many things in my closet :)))), haha! LOVE the velvet shrug!!


  6. Love the color mix Patti especially the ruffled pencil skirt. Looks so edgy with boots. I tend to wear my favorites all the time 🙂 Have a lovely week. We are still waiting for spring to finally show up…but it hasn’t made up its mind yet…haha….xo Sabina

  7. I like the fresh design ideas that you have put up out here… but how much can you do with the simple & humble women tank? I have seen some of the best women’s accessories/women’s tanks I’ve seen at ObeyClothing.com. I’ll be buying all the colors when I have some extra cash.

  8. Having done some major purging before a recent move I did have to be quite ruthless and it was tough!!!
    Doc Marten should resume selling this cute boot style!

  9. I also have pieces like that – I wear them only on a rare occasion, but love having them in my wardrobe. I like the idea of only having the things that we love, that bring us joy. And how often we use things is not so relevant! It’s a beautiful outfit, Patti – love the addition of chunky boots!

  10. Yeah…I won’t be getting rid of my loved pieces any time soon.

    I love the shrug and the colour. I too thought I couldn’t wear that colour but it is surprisingly flattering.


  11. I couldn’t agree more! I’ve got so many clothes (ok, too many) and some things don’t get worn for years, but are still favourites, to be rediscovered at some point. Love your outfit, in particular the ruffle skirt and the Doc Martens! xxx

  12. haha! I sort of covered that same old quote in one of my last fashion posts too. I actually go through my closet at the end of every season and try to find something I haven’t worn yet so I can say I wore it at least once. But your right, there are some things you don’t wear once a year (like funeral garb, wedding type dresses) that you don’t want to get rid of.

  13. Looking fabulous today! I love that skirt and your boots!! I am brutal about getting rid of things and then am always regretting it. I am trying harder to not be so quick to say its dead weight. I do have some jeans though that are at least 15 years old that I can’t give up so I understand! Happy Monday!

  14. Variety is the spice of life and rules are for fools!
    Some of my clothes only get an outing every couple of years – because I live in a cold climate but buy like I live in the tropics.
    You look fab! love the ruffles!

  15. Haha – I ignore that rule, too! Your velvet olive shrug is equisite and I can see why it is considered a favorite. Very nice way to complete any look!

  16. Apart from the lovely colour, there is velvet involved. Who doesn’t like the feel of that?
    I agree with you, not everything you haven’t worn over a year, has to go.
    Linking up with you today.

  17. I am the same way. I have paired down my closet to a capsule wardrobe, but there is still a section of clothing, that stays because I love them so much and I want to know they are there if I want to wear them.

  18. Rules are made to be broken! Sometimes it takes me years to work out how to wear a statement piece, so it hangs there unworn, then suddenly I start wearing it all the time. I love the velvet with the gingham, nice combo!

  19. The rule applies only to everyday items. It doesn’t apply to those occasion items, like in your case the puffer coat for NYC, a velvet shrug for the opera/special dinner, an evening gown, ski clothes, swimsuit, etc.

  20. I so agree with you, Patti! I have numerous pieces in my closet that I don’t wear all that often for various reasons, but when I do they bring me tremendous joy. Or they are an absolute necessity like a heavy winter coat in Germany, which I never need here in California…

    Thanks for the link up & have a great week!

    Andrea’s Wellness Notes

  21. I so agree – pieces we LOVE always have a place in our closets. I have items I haven’t worn in years, and there’s no way they are going anywhere – they just go into a longer rotation (I can’t wear the same gowns every year! Pfft, what would the media think, ha ha!). Love that velvet shrug, Patti – it’s definitely a keeper!

  22. Hey Patti! We’re both wearing black and white checks in our latest posts! So cool! I love your skirt, the ruffles add flair! If I were to get rid of things I haven’t worn in a year, I’d lose half my clothes! In fact, today I’m wearing a jacket I’ve never worn bought several years ago. I love it and will feature it soon. I do admit I have more clothes than I need, but better in my closet than in a landfill (many are thrifted). I turned a spare room into a walk-in closet since our children have all grown and moved out, every fashionista needs one! 🙂



  23. So true, Patti! I was beating myself up recently for holding onto certain items for years but rarely wearing them. Your’e right, though. Pieces like that gold shrug–which I LOVE–are little treasures that can never be thrown out. I think what I need to do is figure out a way to incorporate them into my daily wardrobe like you have here. Thank you for the food for thought!

    And thank you for the link-up thing! I finally did it! 🙂


  24. woo-hoo, unique doc martens. No kidding, about keeping whatever you dang well want! Who cares when you last wore it. We’re not in a police state…yet! You look loverly.

  25. Couldn’t agree more, some things get saved and worn when the time is right! Your ruffle skirt is on trend and reminds me of the most adorable one I recently got at Target that I am hoping to style this week!

  26. Ditto and saving. There have been pieces I haven’t worn for five years and then they will go perfectly with something-you never know. If they are well made and make me feel good-I not parting company. You shrug look like a wonderful piece and a a keeper.

  27. My mama calls those pieces, “saving them for good!” Yet, we decided good could be any ole time you feel like it and I feel that velvet shrug is a keep forever piece! Boy, you look pretty! Super cute skirt too!

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