How To Celebrate Your Over-50 Beauty

Yes, your beauty. Not just your confidence and spirit – formidable though they are – but your actual, radiant beauty. It’s not a word we hear tossed around enough about our physical selves after 50. But let’s toss it around today, looking at our beauty through fresh eyes.

Remember Gloria Steinem‘s response to a reporter who said to her “You don’t look 40” (she was 41.) Gloria replied, “This is what 40 looks like.” Well, this is what 64 looks like, at least to my 64 year-old eyes. These women were all born in 1955:

Shout out to Blondie, ageless rocker and woman of a certain age.
Cyndi Lauper, always being herself with her unique brand of beauty. Source.
Former Congresswoman Cynthia McKinney. Tweed and pearls with a youthful attitude. And confidence.

When I check the mirror these days, I talk to myself: “That’s a good face, with kindness and experience written on it.” “Ah, so that’s how it’s going to be, more lines of distinction.” “What a calm face, having been through so many revolutions around the Sun.” “Some red lipstick plus brow powder is all that face needs to truly glow.”

It’s worthwhile for us to put aside youthful definitions of beauty. Few of us over 50 have naturally taut skin and high perky breasts.

So here are some ideas for how to more deeply appreciate our beautiful selves, and I welcome your thoughts in the comments below:

Embrace your quirks now that you’re over 50. You love to wear hats? Wear hats any day of the week and to any event. Socks with pugs? Big yes, who do we need to be “acceptable” for?

Enjoy your signature pieces every day. Be known for your raspberry lipstick, or silver chain necklace, your embroidered jean jacket, or Doc Martens. Your long (or pixie) silver or rose gold hair, standing out in the crowd.

This hair is so appealing. I like the fine lines too. Source: Pinterest.

Save money and stress by letting your features, smile, makeup, and wardrobe be authentic and, dare I say, easy. Today I wet my hair, put some coconut oil in it, and let it air-dry for a messy/natural look. We don’t have to try so hard. I still want to look fabulous and I understand I’d never win a competition with 20- and 30-somethings. In fact, there’s no competition left at all; I’ve made it this far.

Skip most trends that are created by the fashion industry to squeeze more money out of you. Pick and choose what you love, and trust your instincts. I am loving trendy wide-leg jeans this season and they suit me. Next year, we shall re-evaluate. Don’t be bossed around by trends. Except for glasses: go for the on-trend eyeglasses. It’s an immediate lift.

The gorgeous and talented Patricia Arquette rocks trendy frames. Source.

As we get older we look more and more like ourselves, and that’s more than OK. Our insides start to show more clearly on our outsides. We can now use our comfort, poise, and relatability to glow with easy beauty.

Stay fabulous and party on, and be excellent to each other,

Browse these pieces for some style inspiration, at any age:

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  1. Hurrah for you and for sharing your enlightened thoughts. I love the notion that I’m becoming all that I am – how fab! It’s totally liberating to have such wise owls with good souls as guidance out here on the web . Thank you x

  2. I loved reading this post Patti. Such a cool shot of you! True words spoken. I think when you get to our age life experiences make us wiser. I feel more comfortable in my own skin now than at any other time. I’m still waiting for life to slow down a little though.
    Alison x

    • Good morning Alison and thanks for the kind words! Feeling comfortable in one’s skin is a great way to live each day.

  3. Oh thank you, Patti. I’ve had some bad cases of high-definition camera lately. I’m trying to normalize what I see. These words help. Pug socks!!

    • Pug socks help everything! HD is the devil – it’s like when I do my housework with my glasses on, ack. xo

  4. Patti, this is a brilliant testament to how we should all be loving ourselves…especially at this stage of life. We have lived long enough to have gained wisdom and self love. Your message really struck a chord with me as I was just staring at myself in the mirror this weekend and I felt like I could see all the versions of myself in one glance from my teen years when I hated what I saw in the mirror to my 20’s and 30’s where that self-hatred continued and then into my 40’s when a shift occurred and I don’t hate the person looking back at me from the mirror. And with all the extra lines and creases that are popping up on my face, I somehow feel younger and more alive and more vibrant than I ever have before. Aging really is a wonderful, beautiful process. And I am so glad to live in this age of technology and internet where we can inspire and empower each other on this journey. Thanks for doing the work you do here!


    • Thank you for your comment, Shelbee. I appreciate your honesty and relatability that come through in everything your write! Keep aging beautifully, xo.

  5. What an uplifting post, Patti! And whatever anyone says, beauty really does come from within, whichever age you are. You will look good at any age, if you continue to feel happy in your own skin. xxx P.S. you are so right about glasses 🙂

  6. This made me smile and start the day with a positive I can carry with me. Thank you!

  7. What a beautiful, well writting, uplifting post. And you know I had to mention it…PUG SOCKS!!!

    So glad you continue to blog and allow your voice be heard.


  8. Well said, Patti. At the moment my Boho-leaning wardrobe is out of place in the church we attend. I’ve asked myself if I want to modify what I’m wearing and the answer is “no!”. Haha! I’m letting my hair come in gray, too. Fingers crossed that I’ll be able to rock that look!

    • Oh I love silver hair, Kim – I hope yours makes you happy too. Keep Boho strong : >

  9. Oh thankyouthankyouthankyou, your post was just what I needed to read this morning!

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