Yes, your beauty. Not just your confidence and spirit – formidable though they are – but your actual, radiant beauty. It’s not a word we hear tossed around enough about our physical selves after 50. But let’s toss it around today, looking at our beauty through fresh eyes.
Remember Gloria Steinem‘s response to a reporter who said to her “You don’t look 40” (she was 41.) Gloria replied, “This is what 40 looks like.” Well, this is what 64 looks like, at least to my 64 year-old eyes. These women were all born in 1955:
When I check the mirror these days, I talk to myself: “That’s a good face, with kindness and experience written on it.” “Ah, so that’s how it’s going to be, more lines of distinction.” “What a calm face, having been through so many revolutions around the Sun.” “Some red lipstick plus brow powder is all that face needs to truly glow.”
It’s worthwhile for us to put aside youthful definitions of beauty. Few of us over 50 have naturally taut skin and high perky breasts.
So here are some ideas for how to more deeply appreciate our beautiful selves, and I welcome your thoughts in the comments below:
Embrace your quirks now that you’re over 50. You love to wear hats? Wear hats any day of the week and to any event. Socks with pugs? Big yes, who do we need to be “acceptable” for?
Enjoy your signature pieces every day. Be known for your raspberry lipstick, or silver chain necklace, your embroidered jean jacket, or Doc Martens. Your long (or pixie) silver or rose gold hair, standing out in the crowd.
Save money and stress by letting your features, smile, makeup, and wardrobe be authentic and, dare I say, easy. Today I wet my hair, put some coconut oil in it, and let it air-dry for a messy/natural look. We don’t have to try so hard. I still want to look fabulous and I understand I’d never win a competition with 20- and 30-somethings. In fact, there’s no competition left at all; I’ve made it this far.
Skip most trends that are created by the fashion industry to squeeze more money out of you. Pick and choose what you love, and trust your instincts. I am loving trendy wide-leg jeans this season and they suit me. Next year, we shall re-evaluate. Don’t be bossed around by trends. Except for glasses: go for the on-trend eyeglasses. It’s an immediate lift.
As we get older we look more and more like ourselves, and that’s more than OK. Our insides start to show more clearly on our outsides. We can now use our comfort, poise, and relatability to glow with easy beauty.
Stay fabulous and party on, and be excellent to each other,
Browse these pieces for some style inspiration, at any age: