Be Proud Of Your Closet: Size Doesn’t Matter

I received several comments and posts at this week’s Visible Monday that mentioned the size of our closets and wardrobes. It got me thinking about how we each feel about the number of clothes we own.

I have dear friends on both ends of the spectrum – minimalists and maximalists – and I don’t have any negative feelings about either extreme. Who am I to judge the amount of clothing you choose to own? Don’t judge yourself either, but be proud of the closet you’ve created. Buy/add only what you love. Wear it all and don’t wait for “special.”


Neither of these is my own closet. I’m somewhere in between.The one on the left does look like more fun.

When I was recently invited to observe a friend’s closet, I was overjoyed with all the lovely variety and color in her wardrobe. She probably has five times the number of pieces that I do, and good on her. She pays out of her own pocket, she stays within the family budget, and she gets great joy from playing with a large wardrobe.

Another friend has one of the smallest wardrobes I’ve ever seen. She doesn’t like to wear dresses and skirts, and has about five pair of slim-fit jeans. She wears them with a flow-y top everyday, and looks terrific. And she only has about six pairs of shoes – plenty, she says, for her lifestyle.


Ahh, but they can be so beautiful.

I truly enjoy having a medium size, edited closet. But I’m still adding to my wardrobe, albeit at a far slower rate than in my 30’s and 40’s. Here are my theories about how I accumulate:

  • Thrifting. A blessing and a millstone. Like many fashion-lovers I enjoy the hunt, the hope of a score. But sometimes I come home with STUFF that now needs: cleaning, pressing, arranging and justifying.
  • The mythology of “this one will be perfect.” For example, I have three pairs of great jeans. That’s enough for my lifestyle, by far. I have one skinny pair, one boyfriend, and one wide and cropped. So why am I tempted by what magazines call the “perfect pair of dark denims”.? At age 62, I think I would have found them by now.

What about you? I think all closet approaches are viable, including my own in-between version, if they give you joy.

Do you like to have a little or a lot?

Stay fabulous,

There’s always room for a treat or treasure, no matter how small my closet:


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  2. I’ve always loved to collect clothes, but since I started blogging, the volume of clothes has just mushroomed. I now have a “reason” for all the excessive shopping that I do, but hey, who am I trying to kid? My husband is very accepting of my flaws and weaknesses regarding new, thrifted or vintage clothes and the same about my ever expanding shoe/boot collection. He classes my hobby as benign – what a gem he is!
    Thanks for this post and for getting us all to share our closet stories.
    Anna x

  3. such an interesting post (and very interesting comments too!), as I think that every closet shows its owner’s personality, so there’s not a correct way to manage a closet, it depends on what’s your taste, your lifestyle and what activities do you prefer!
    I had a pretty minimalistic closet in my 30’s, almost black, red and purple. It was an small closet in my small (rented) room, perfect for my small budget. Then, I moved to another city, had a new job and new lifestyle, so my closet had to change, it became more colorful and more Me!. Now I think it has overgrown!

    • It sounds like many of us grown-up women have bloomed from our small rented closets (I had just a rack at my first apartment) to a more expressive, experimental wardrobe. I love your playfulness with color. xox

  4. I hear what you are saying about thrifting…I love shopping for a great find, but can sometimes overdo it. I have three smaller closets to my husband’s one and am in process of trying to use what I love and removing what I don’t wear. I find this is a slow process, but I am enjoying the process. I would eventually like to move toward having closet(s) filled only with what I love and wear consistently for each season. Think I’ll make it?

    • Yes of course! You’re choosing what you love, and removing the rest. Guaranteed success, xox

  5. Tell me, Patti, what do you think – why many of us feel the need to judge ourselves and not fully accept all our eccentricities? Why we think that we need to edit ourselves?

    Until the age of 40 (exact number!), I was very much like the friend #2 from your story. That was probably mostly because of my very modest upbringing – we all had about the same amount of stuff in the USSR and many of us knew how to make our on clothes (sewing, knitting) and did it well. I never thought that I did not have “enough”, I was never longing for more. Now in my early 40s, I am very much in experimenting, trying on new styles and having fun with all that. I am not especially organized, but I do what I can. I am who I am now, and I enjoy learning who I am and what things please me and what things don’t matter to me as much. At times I struggle and think that “something’s wrong with me”, that I need to “edit” me to the point when I am finally more or less “acceptable”. By who? Those who love us accept us the way we are, and those who don’t, why we are even concerned about their opinion?

    I keep reminding myself that I am free to be whatever and whoever I want to be and live my life the way I like today. When I will like something else, then I’ll do something else. I am free to change. But for any given period of time, I want to be content with who I am. Not with who I was or who I will be. And now I am experimenting, creative, messy, free-spirited artistic me.

    • “Those who love us accept us the way we are, and those who don’t, why we are even concerned about their opinion?” That is really the heart of the matter, yes? It’s normal to prefer to be accepted by others, but we don’t need anyone’s approval to bloom. And you are blooming, xox

  6. I used to have a walk in closet in my previous house. Fantastic! I could see my clothes every minute I wanted too! Now I have a closet for !y skirts, one for my dresses, one for jackets and cardigans and one for sweaters and tops!

  7. Ha ha! Hmmm…let me stop and think whose rather “large” closet it was that you viewed ; P

    For years and years I’ve wanted to have a proper walk in closet. My Ikea closets are the compromise I made and I love them. I have a thing about being organized and knowing where to find what I’m looking for. I wouldn’t be able to cope with the amount of clothes I have in my house if I wasn’t organized.

    Like you I find that my thrifting habit can sometimes take over my closet. There are so many brilliant pieces out there waiting to be rescued! I keep having to tell myself these aren’t baby pugs that need rescuing but 99% of the time they come home with me regardless. My excuse of course is that I now have an Etsy store (can you believe I have over 300 pieces listed! And another 100 or so waiting to be listed).

    I agree… closets, like individuals are unique.


    • Right – we’re not saving kittens!! You busted me on whose closet was the maximalist. I love, love your closets and all the possibilities in there. xox

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