As I’ve written, I don’t make resolutions for the new year. It’s a convenient and natural time to re-evaluate my style goals, though. Being retired (“working from home”) means a more casual but not sloppy look. I sometimes use that old saw about “what if I ran into my ex-husband and his new 34-year-old wife at the pharmacy?” to motivate me. But she’s actually 65, and a lovely person, so it’s just a Jedi mind trick.
1. For the last few years my primary style goal has been: to create/refine a wardrobe that is 100% loved. My style is a combination of casual and feminine, with a scrap of edgy. I want all my clothing to reflect me, in the way I see myself. “Almost good” pieces are out the door. No matched suits, crisp white shirts, or classic pumps for me although I appreciate the look on others.
2. My second and ongoing style goal is to refine my wardrobe so that nearly-everything goes with nearly-everything. Some days one doesn’t want to put a lot of mental energy into creating new and fresh outfits. Favorite jeans + well-made tee + either scarf or necklace and bracelet is a happy uniform for me.
3. Also: greater emphasis on quality. I use the Yiddish word “schmatta” (“rags”) when I shop to remind me I don’t need pieces that are cheaply made, and/or sweatshop-produced. I shop less often for “deals” and I’m buying more of what I love based on quality and need, not price. That’s one reason I adore shopping at thrifts and consignment stores for good quality stuff. I don’t buy it if I don’t love it, which includes fit, color, condition, and good vibrations.
4. And: accept my new shape. I have read Nora Ephron’s book, I Feel Bad About My Neck, twice now and it always makes me laugh, and think. My neck is fine, it’s my expanding waist I must come to love. Even though I weigh within three or so pounds of my lowest adult weight, my waist keeps magically expanding. Fitted waistline skirts are a challenge and my favorite 1950’s and 60’s vintage dresses don’t zip. This makes me sad, and it’s a new reality – I really can’t lose much weight off my frame and still look healthy. So it’s my mindset that has to change: nothing wrong with sizing up!
Have you made any style goals? If you’re over 50, has your waist developed a mind of its own?
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